Yellow is to banana

With this week’s challenge, show us what yellow means to you.

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Yellow and banana go hand in hand.

Obviously the color of a ripe banana skin is yellow.

To me, a banana is a fruit with yellow skin but I soon learned that yellow or banana means an Asian person, perhaps more specifically a Chinese person.  I have no idea where the term came from but looking around me and the Chinese community, I failed to see any yellow in them.  Most of them are either light brown or tanned and some  are even faired skinned.

Nevertheless Yellow is a nice color and it signifies royalty to some nations.



Gone, But Not Forgotten

We spent a nice evening at The Silo Night Markets which kick off each weekend at 5:00pm every Friday.  Friday’s are also home to Auckland’s only regular open-air cinema, Silo Cinema – a fantastic outdoor film experience, where movies of all genres are projected onto the iconic Silo 7.  Silo Park offers the ultimate weekend outing for all ages, inviting families and friends to grab a bite, pull up a beanbag and enjoy the show.

The good thing is we had fun, the movie shown last night was ‘Good Morning, Vietnam’ starring Robin Williams who may be gone, but not forgotten.

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In today’s challenge, show us what “gone, but not forgotten” means to you. It could be a photo of a faithful canine friend who’s chasing squirrels in a better place, a spot in your city, town, or village that reminds you of a relationship now over, a talisman that reminds you of something that you can never get back, a photo of you in your smashing 70s silver lamé jumpsuit, or the crumbs that remain from the delicious cheesecake you baked.

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Love Only Made with Loved One

So true. From the heart of a woman.

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Eileen Chang (張愛玲), one of the most influential Chinese writers, once wrote: a man’s heart can be reached through his stomach, and a woman’s through her vagina.  Such words, straightforward and even cruel, revealed simple and humble natures of a woman.

For many girls, the first sexual experience may feel as confusing as sleepwalking.  In most cases she has no preparations on what she is looking for and what she is about to get, sexual satisfaction is beyond her reach.  The imperfect experience forms part of the reasons that the relationship with her first sexual partner is usually short lived.

Despite this after her very first sexual encounter, an impression on her partner, more or less, good or bad, may be stored in her memory for the rest of her life.  This might be why even nowadays an oriental man is still obsessed with the concept of virginity, carrying an expectation to leave a scar in her heart by being her first before departing to hunt…

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What is friendship?

Do you call someone you hang out with a friend?  Is a flatmate, a colleague or someone who lives in your neighborhood, someone to do things with considered a friend?  Is your partner or your daughter a friend?  If you have that person as your Facebook friend, is he or she really a friend to you?

When you take a step back and ponder, perhaps none of those people that are in your life are really friends.  Your partner or children are family and can be friends if there are connections but those people you socialize with are most probably just acquaintances.

Friendship takes time to grow.  To be truly considered a friend, the other person has to also believe you are their friend too.  There is a difference between being friends and acting friendly. Someone who is a friend will introduce you as a friend to others or tell you that you are their friend.  A friend stays in touch with you during the week, either a call, text or email.  A friend is someone who has done something nice for you and who is interested when you talk about your life, someone who listens and comforts.  A true friend is not someone who is trying to compete with you or someone who constantly puts you down.  A friend is someone who is there for you when you feel the world has left you.

“A friend is one who walks in when others walk out”
-Walter Winchell

It is better to have a handful of friends then being surrounded by dozens of acquaintances.  I have come to realized that friendship made from young are the most genuine of all.  When two young children meet and connect on their first day at school, they formed a bond and often, that bond is extended through the years and even after many years of not seeing each other, when they meet up again, the bond returns.  In this aspect, social media like Facebook plays a great part in connecting people who would otherwise had lost contact.  This is only one occasion that I would consider Facebook Friend a friend, probably less than a handful of them out of a few hundred.

At times you may feel lonely even when you are out with a whole group of acquaintances.   Socializing is a form of entertainment and too much going out and about with people who are just acquaintances or casual mates may not be at all meaningful. Spending time with another whom you consider a friend is something else.  Friendship is a truly valuable gift.

Do you prefer having many casual friends or one true friend?